When the Summer Comes Undone
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If you come to find out who you are
May you find out, may you find out who you are
And if you come to search for what is lost
May you find it, may you find it at any cost
— Kevin Morby, “Parade”
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A few days ago I woke up at 5.30 in the morning and the sun wasn’t up yet, which sounded a melancholy note that has continued to ring through the rest of the week. Everywhere there were signs that this summer, which has been remarkably short and fitful in Portland, was on the wane: Galen Rupp took bronze in the Olympic men’s marathon, marking the end of the games; a feverish hot spell broke and collapsed into another cool, marine afternoon; I began to ponder with idle dread the pending season of storm and malaise. In a month the trees will be burning with autumn. In another month the rain will be falling with its insistent hiss. Time, that gyre, tumbles on.
Just now I walked by an apartment I walk by nearly every day. Every day, I walk by this apartment and look in to see a cheerful old boxer dog, his lower jaw thrust out under his jowls, happily watching the street and waiting for his people to return home from work. Sometimes I place a finger against the glass and he will raise a tentative paw to test the boundary between us; we are, in our strange way, friends. But just now I walked by that window and looked inside and my friend wasn’t there. Neither was the couch he usually sits on, or the radio that burbles in the background, or the bikes that idle against the wall. It seems my friend has moved away, taking his people with him. It felt abrupt, unfitting, like a song that ends halfway through its last verse: couldn’t they have waited until fall to go away? That would have made more sense.
I never spoke to his people, though I used to see them out walking my friend around the neighborhood most days. I always felt a little embarrassed when that happened, as if they knew that many afternoons I peered into their apartment with the intensity of a peeping Tom. I wanted to preemptively tell them that it was just that I like their dog. But is that any less weird, really?
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My brothers and I made a decision this morning that’s making all the melancholy a little more intense. Years ago now, our parents moved out of the neighborhood where we grew up, and back to Bend, the town where my mother grew up.* Two of us boys were living out of state, and we were unused to spending Thanksgiving and other landmarks without our parents there. Between the three of us, we had enough money to buy a little two-bedroom condo on the west end of town, at the base of a big hill beneath the college. We painted its walls bright red and named it “Thunder Canyon”, with the silly logic of long fraternal understanding — meaning I can’t really tell you why, anymore. It was just a 1000-square-foot condominium in a block of other condominiums. But the name stuck.
*It’s actually only sort of the town where my mother grew up, anymore. Back in the 50s and 60s it was a little logging community with 12,000 or so wind-blasted souls clinging to the eastern edge of the Cascades there; now it’s a tourist bonanza, bloated to nearly 90,000, with almost all of that growth coming in the last 20 years. It is, she says, more or less unrecognizable, except the house out on Neff Road that her father so inelegantly designed and had built to hold his brood of eight.
Over the years we had a lot of good times there. When we first had the place, a little giddy with the thrill of ownership, we half-wrote and kind-of-filmed a sitcom about the three of us living there, in which I was cast as the oppressive, straight-laced older brother that (believe it or not) I actually kind of was when we were kids. We watched parts of two World Cups there, and cooked frittatas for every extended family Xmas party, and smoked countless cigarettes on countless drunken nights by the barbecue. It provided safe haven when life turned weird: when I discovered that I almost could not tolerate to be in Minnesota for more than a few months at a time, it was where I returned to lick my wounds and feel the sun on my face. It was the place where I finished my novel. It was where I did altitude training for a marathon. It was the last place I saw my now-dead foster brother happy.
But we decided this morning to sell it. We’ve been talking kind of idly about it for a year or two, as the housing market in Bend has recovered from the recession and become blistering hot. There are a lot of other factors — for one, our parents moved out to the country, and one can no longer walk from our place to theirs — but that’s really the bulk of it. You know, one tries to be cold and rational about an issue that really just boils down to stuff, but as I was packing up to leave it this morning, I realized that I’d probably just spent my last summer evening there, that for the last time I’d returned from a long run slicked with sweat and stained with thin bruises of dirt — that, to some degree, the place I’d thought of as home was not going to be mine anymore. That’s fine, I guess. I’ve been trying to change a lot over the last year or so, with a surprising amount of success, and one of the things that change has meant is that I didn’t really need a place where I could go hide from the world anymore. It had just become an excuse to be less than I am, to bathe in nostalgia and memory in a way that wasn’t entirely constructive in the long run.
I once told a friend of mine that I think I get melancholy and joy mixed up sometimes. Mornings like this one are why that happens. I mean, I was leaving home. But what might I find beyond its walls?